Smile and Laugh

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Reviewed by both sides of the family before going to print, the real message of this song is in the third verse: Love them anyway.
Written by Maria Cahill


We’re spending the weekend with my family
where everyone is talking simultaneously
there are ten balls of energy in the form of my cousins
runnin’ wild ‘round the house on a candy bar or a dozen
since we’ve run out of people to bash who aren’t hear
and a little bit of quiet is our greatest fear
out come the do-you-remembers and we reminisce
like those lousy childhood days were some kind of bliss

Everyone likes my husband ‘cause he’s not like us
He’s handsome and tall and most important, he keeps his mouth shut
he’ll lend a hand when he can, pull something down from a high shelf
no matter what they say, he just smiles and laughs to himself

Now we’re visiting his family for the weekend
and there’s never a decision we don’t have to defend
come through the door, see if our picture’s turned down
then we know it’s been too long, since we’ve come around
when you are getting a job? when are you having kids?
like a horror flick, my head goes around in spins
but I married their son, so they’re stuck with me
‘til that front door flies open and they’re one again free

You might have a family that’s just like mine or his
You might wonder how you made it, how did you turn out like this
but a crazy family’s better than no family at all
so you better let ‘em know you love ‘em while they’re still here to call
and the next time, big holiday, you’re all together
here’s what you do to keep your heart light as a feather
sit on the couch with your mouth shut and your opinions to yourself
and no matter what they say, you just smile & laugh to yourself


from Sun's Glow, released January 1, 2001
Maria Cahill, Vocals, Banjo
Steve Cahill, Bass, Vocals, Acoustic Guitar
Chris Cotter, Drum kit
Jonathan Thompson, Saxophone
Mark Unruh, Electric Guitar, Vocals
Mark Moss, Sound Engineer, Target Studio
Alex Forster, cover art


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